I’m looking for a partner-in-crime over 35 (ideally in their 40s). I know Reddit skews younger, but let’s see what happens.

A bit about me:

I’m a 47-year-old, married but soon-to-separate man in the SF Bay Area. After 25 years together, my wife and I are civil but distant—emotionally and sexually. Life has its twists, but I’m handling my end.

Physically, I’m South Asian with salt-and-pepper hair, 5'6", and working towards being fitter. I work in tech (shocker!) and am well-educated and well-traveled—also, DDF.

I’ll be upfront: I have a high libido and miss the deep sexual connection that’s been absent for a while. I want to explore desires with someone who values both mental and physical intimacy—where we can be open and free without judgment.

What I’m not looking for:

* A new life partner or someone to carry my emotional baggage.

* A quick, transactional meet

* Sugar baby / OF collaborations / AI bots.

What I am looking for:

* A genuine connection: chatting, sharing experiences, and exploring desires. I’m open-minded and experienced and enjoy mental and physical connection. A meaningful connection where we can chat, share experiences, and explore our sexual desires openly. I want someone who enjoys intimacy, and yes, I'm very much into exploring those desires—sexuality is important to me, but I also crave variety in conversation beyond that.

* Ideally, you’re also attached, and we can respect each other’s boundaries.

* If the vibe is right, meeting for coffee or lunch would be great. I’m open to exploring desires together without inhibition/ judgment. A mix of fun conversation and spice keeps things interesting.

If you’ve read this far, please DM or send me a chat message. If we click, we can move to Telegram