Maybe you can be useful to us and fulfill this hard to fine role.

I realize what I’m looking for is not easy to find, there are no public examples of it to follow, so, it exists only in imagination. And for many, it’s a hard ask yet I’ve spoken to enough girls to know some fantasize about it.

The truth of the matter is that the valley in between fantasy land and the real world is haunted by many ghosts. So, many, disappear even after claiming to be excited.

So, what is it I’m looking for you wonder?

Well…to put it simply a sub for me, that knows and is friends with my wife. She may or may not participate, that’s for her to decide BUT she is fully aware of the situation. We talk about it often.

The sub and I would connect mentally, build a friendship and create a bond that can only exist between a Dom and sub. It’s a special type of relationship really. Being a sub first, friend/lover second is a unique experience and type of relationship that is rare to find, let alone build to.

Yes, the sex, the attraction and especially the kinks are important. I do have some deal breakers and boundaries (though I’ve very kinky) to discuss in the DMs, but I feel expressing the desire and importance of us building an initial understanding and sense of respect can’t be stressed enough.

I’m very much into the psychological aspects of D/s, if you couldn’t already tell. I am a sadist into both physical and psychological sadism- aka humiliation, degredation, objectification as well as being served, praise (lots of praise) and mentorship. I’d really love to work with a sub to help her understand herself deeply, not only sexually but psychologically. I’d love to use the D/s to train her to be a better person, not only for me but for herself.

Yes, I like the power and the control. I crave it. I can be very strict at first but as you begin to feel and own your place in the “family” I loosen up. I can imagine nights, after you’ve been trained, just chillin, watching Netflix and when we’re done, you know how to clean up and tidy everything. You’d be naked and maybe not allowed to sit on the furniture or maybe you are cuddled up next to me and my wife?

While this post has been flowy, and a romanticized expression of THe fantasy, don’t get it twisted, I am most definitely a strict, high protocol, Dom- but if you’re a good girl and learn your place, I can be chill, friendly and supportive.

The last things you should know…I do not sext. We can talk about BDSm and kinks, but I won’t role play with you via DMs, and lastly, we are in the process of moving to SD (my hometown) and will be in the area in less than a month, so, you got to want to talk and get to know each other over this time.

If you made it this far, your heart might be thumping, your stomach warm with butterflies and your fingers crossed that this is real. If so send me a message and tell me what you enjoyed about this post.

Let’s make a connection