Finding the balance between the two can be hard but i know from experience can be done

I don't want to just work ON a submissive, taking them through the paces although I will do that too. I want to work WITH a submissive and have meaningful engagement from them on understanding their role, exploring their sexuality, and connecting to their submissive self. There's only so much leading a horse that one person can do. The horse needs to look at themselves in the water, reflect, and drink deep

I want to come together in satisfaction of mutual need. You to submit, me to dominate. Both of us to make something balanced and fulfilling in the unique way each requires. Something that has the feel of power exchange and discipline, with the care and concern of friendship. I want to see you grow, I want to be a catalyst for some of that growth, and give shape to your journey. I want to make something where the play is the work and the work is the play, where you can have more fun and pleasure than ever while also experiencing more challenge and pain, suffering, discomfort

If you make your way into my messages it's because you're someone who wants something both casual and intense. Some situations require patience while others are better served by having high standards and pushing you to meet them. We'll navigate both of those together

I enjoy pain and humiliation, and think they are made more enjoyable by understanding and caring for the person going through the experience. I wouldn't treat a stranger on the street the way that I intend to treat you. In a way those sacrifices of your physical and emotional comfort for my amusement and my pleasure are also a way you show me how much you care about and respect how I treat you. It's why I have so much attention and interest in things like conversation and aftercare

If you make your way into my messages it's because you agree we want to be almost clinical about controlling your submissive sexual experience but not detached or impersonal. Like me, you want to take this seriously but more like something you practice a few times a week or something instead of 24/7 or TPE. Meditating a few minutes a day, a few times a week can be life changing. A little consistency can go a long way. I think the same can be said for BDSM and power exchange

I'm open to all the age ranges, all the time zones, all the experience levels and relationship statuses, as long as the combination of these things actually works. Message me with detail about yourself to show me you've read this and start our conversation. Someone writing one sentence isn't making enough of an effort to connect their needs with my offer