This might be a bit long, but I think the more detailed I am, the better I can reach what I’m looking for. Please bear with me :) I don’t mind taking my time to vet.

What I’m looking for: For the most part, I’m a kink novice. I’ve been reading romance novels and erotica since I was a teen, but was also a late bloomer. This gave me lots of time to think, fantasize and dream. I’ve been to a rope workshop once, and a few dirty exhibitions but have never had a dedicated partner to explore with. I’m looking for someone who would like to lead and teach as my first kink partner. I have plenty of predilections but would prefer to discuss in private. 

I don’t want a total power exchange, but when we’re together, I’d like to relax into being courted. I’m a big romantic. To me, kink starts in the mind first. I love to seduce, but I also want that in turn. Anticipation is half the fun. In the bedroom, I love a mix of strength and softness, a balance between being rough and passionate. I want to feel objectified and owned, but at the same time adored and worshipped. You know how to enjoy and work the female body, bringing a woman to the brink of pleasure and back down. Slow, sensual build-up, body worship, teasing, manhandling, groping. Dirty talk is a plus. Looking for something consistent and ongoing, my libido is very high and after a period of celibacy, I want to indulge. I love spending hours in bed. 

About me: 5’8’’, 240lbs (Think classical statues in a museum) Black femme with short natural hair. Currently I have cornrows though :) Soft face, big pillowy lips. 38G with a nipple piercing, a bit of a tummy, long legs with thick thighs. I like to joke that I look like 90s love interest. Non-smoker, DDF (420 friendly though!) I can be a bit of a brat, if you like power play and sarcastic flirting. I love push/pull, of resisting/overpowering. This obviously requires mutual trust, security, and respect, and good communication (both verbal and non-verbal). My style is dark and sensual, and I love to get dolled up and enjoy NYC after dark. My hobbies are cerebral, laid back, and mostly solitary. Films, reading, journaling, art museums and galleries, trying wines, new restaurants, etc. I love beautiful things and intellectual pursuits. I’m headstrong in my day to day life, but limited to this dynamic, I’d be submissive in and outside of play. I think a lot about sex in terms of how it’s socialized through culture and enjoy the aesthetics of the erotic. I own a fair amount of books about it. Posting here gives me a bit of a clandestine thrill, I want to lean into being a secret slut.

About you: Ideally 30-50. Younger men have to make the case about their experience. 5’9 and taller. My preference is big and muscular since I’m a bigger girl myself and feeling like I could be tossed around is fun, but all body types welcome. You’re a good conversationalist who likes chatting big ideas, generous, confident, communicative, emotionally intelligent good sense of humor and a gentleman (until you’re not). You’d be interested in going to cultural events around the city, cocktail bars with live music, long intellectual conversations. I want a play partner who I can admire and respect. 

Say hi with some SFW photos and where in the city you’re located. Lower Manhattan and Brooklyn take priority, as proximity is helpful for the cadence I want. Messages without photos might get ignored, sorry! NSFW photos will get you blocked. Would love to hear why my post stood out to you and more about yourself. Let’s chat and see if we where things go ❤️

TLDR: If you think you’d be into teaching a thick Black woman, who’s simultaneously glamorous and an artistic nerd with a high libido who’s craving frequency and consistency, about kink, please get in touch.