So I have been engaging in variations of DirtyR4R sub-reddits, but some fall by the wayside, most end up being an OnlyFans hook hoping someone will bite, and a handful actually end up as short-term/one night sext sessions that's over once I've encourage them to get theirs and I'm left holding my proverbial. I have got one person I'm talking to and it's more for helping them 'flesh' out an erotic story for themselves and their kinks.

I want someone engaging, talk about more than just getting off in the next 20 mins or selling online subscriptions, someone who can go from talking about their day to sexting, but then to mutual interests. I'm not saying you can't have your pleasure and not sleep afterwards because you have seminar to give on favourite films, but at least follow up the next day or two, maintain a connection (if there is one)

I'll be completely honest, I'm 39 a dad to 2 kids and married, however a series of circumstances occurred before)around the time of my 2 child's conception that saw my wife confess she is asexual and only partook in sex for children. I've been in a dead bedroom (completely) for 2 years but longer if you don't count the scheduled regimented attempts to procreate.

My wife has said my side of the relationship can be open but doesn't want to engage with knowledge about the who, what or how, but with kids I'm devoted to, being the sole provider for my family and having discussed reasonable 'rules' about 'playing away', I have little time to spare to meet anyone, as well as be the big red flag at a bar: a married guy with a ring on, says wife can have a hall pass, but she doesn't want to know about it...hmmm yeah convenient.

So my compromise is online sexting, neither of us meet, we chat, we flirt, we sext, no one is staying away from their family, no one is under that nervousness of meeting and no secret rendezvous to make partner concerned. You can be married, cheating, whatever, your story is your own, I've laid out my truths. Just looking for a long term friend who's up for innuendo, humour and light hearted conversation whilst happy to change it into something a little more comfortable, if you get my meaning

No faces to start with if sharing pics, happy to share/receive online content with/from you about sexual things you or I like. That may change over time and how we get along

I'm 39, carrying timbre around my mid-section of a dad bod, but I cycle over 90 miles a week to work (plus extra on weekends), I try to take care of myself (although 2 kids can mean you make compromises here and there), I'm 6ft, dark brown hair, bearded (grey's have been coming through for some time).

I like awful films and classic 80s/90s films, anime and cartoons, cycling, technology, science related topics and philosophies, and I love time with my kids. On a more personal level I'm a huge fan of oral, giving AND receiving (and the finishes that can accompany doing this- facials and oral creampies), being rough and dominant, I do not kink-shame but I have a hard line at the bodily fluids that should not be involved in sexual activities or gore. Have never tried giving anal, but never really seen the appeal, but hey I'm an open minded person willing to hear out why people like the things they like. Again on the personal details I'm of average size, not over-endowed or under, so a content middle ground to accommodate most imaginations xP

I won't outline what you need to be, I think if you've read this far you have an inclination if you're interested or if you think you might be of interest to me. Drop me a message