I’ve been worried that I am falling behind in the whole mid-life crisis area. I mean, so many of my friends are out getting remarried or divorced, trying to learn to ride a motorcycle, and making very questionable clothing choices. My problem is that I am actually pretty happy – at work and at home. Yet, being in a dead bedroom with someone who has lost their sexual appetite or is willing to explore has put a damper on life.

If I still have your attention, then I will give you the rest of the basic introduction. I am a professional living and working in NYC. I’m friendly, easy to be around, and open to the delight of meeting new and different people. Emotionally, I’m distressingly stable and unconflicted – to the point that I have to fake a crisis from time to time, so people don’t think me as uninteresting. (shhh, don’t tell) Sexually, I have a wide range of appetites, with a taste for exploration. I tend to be naturally dominant, though I prefer sensuality over a "porn star" experience. Kink-friendly and willing to explore more with the right partner.

As long as I need to fit in a mid-life crisis, I think a beautiful woman beats out a motorcycle any day. You should be desirable- to me.

You should be above 18…or below 70…or somewhere in between.

You should have a good taste in men, demonstrated by the fact that you find me attractive.

You should rank orgasm, especially the sweaty, claw the sheets, oh god do that again variety – as being pretty high up there on your list of life requirements.

You should enjoy museums, or the theater, or camping, or playing on the beach – and should understand that we likely won’t do any of those things because they would require us to get out from between the sheets together.

You should have family, friends, a job, or a hobby that is important to you- and be determined to keep that part of your life private, as I will.

You should like to talk, both in and out of the bed. You should believe that making love with someone new that you like a lot is one of life’s great pleasures, but that making love with them for the twentieth time should be even better.

I’m pretty certain you shouldn’t be any of my wife’s friends. While that would add a certain element of danger and therefore excitement, I would hate to see my perfectly good mid-life crisis suddenly turn into an end-of-life crisis.

Seeking an ongoing emotional and physical affair in NYC or nearby. Kindly reply with your favorite movie in your message title.