I am looking for a relationship, both in and out of the bedroom. Ideally, I want to develop a 24/7 TPE with a man my own age or older (37 - 54 is the age range I’m looking for). I’m turned off by being the older partner so I am not flexible on that age range. I understand that should take years and the form it takes will depend on both partners. I don’t have a strict idea of what the TPE would look like but I would like things like wardrobe control, free use, and service tasks to be part of it. A Dom who likes to guide and protect would be perfect. I would not be a good fit for someone who just wants to come up with punishments. I have heard the style of Domination I enjoy called “Daddy Dom” but I’m not going to call anyone “Daddy”. I am service oriented and derive intense joy from pleasing my Dom and from taking care of him and his needs. I want to be collared eventually and live with my Dom as his sub/romantic partner/wife.

I’m an introvert. I’m nerdy both in the sense that I enjoy nerdy popular culture things like Marvel, Star Trek, SG-1, and Doctor Who and in the sense that I will make jokes about Latin and history. I read a lot - fantasy, sci-fi, history, science, psychology, self-help, comparative religions, ethics, etc - and I love when people recommend books to me. I have a college education and I am currently in the middle of a career change into the tech industry. I’m an indoor human. I can occasionally be persuaded to go on hikes but I’d prefer to walk through a neighborhood or walk through a park. I don’t camp or ski. I don't smoke, I rarely drink, I do partake of THC occasionally but only as edibles. I'm somewhat of a picky eater (onions and cilantro are the devil) but I do eat fairly widely. I wouldn't be a good match for a vegan. Monogamish - I am still trying to decide if I would want additional partners or if I would be comfortable with my Dom having additional partners. I am not looking to join a poly situation. Tell me your favorite polysyllabic word or the last book you read so I know you read this (you will be judged). I am emotionally available and am looking for a man who is also emotionally available. I am looking for single men - not married or partnered. I don’t go to munches or play in public but I might be willing to with someone I knew and trusted. I am in Denver and Studio Friction has comedy shows coupled with shibari. I’d love someone to go with me to those and who has some interest in taking their classes (or has prior knowledge of the subject). I would love to have a dungeon set up in the house.

I’d like someone who can engage my mind and whose company is better than my solitude. I'd love to read next to him while he’s reading or working on something. I don’t have/want kids and my ideal partner either does not have kids or his kids are all adults. I don't play online. I am looking for a relationship, not an encounter. I am difficult to dominate but I am not a brat. My Dom has my full submission and devotion. A delightful BDSM relationship is built on a strong foundation of things that are not BDSM. I am so much more interested in a man’s mind than I am in his body and I am looking for someone who feels the same way. If my mind isn’t engaged outside of the bedroom, it won’t be engaged inside of the bedroom. I will not discuss my history with BDSM or my preferences (beyond what I’ve listed here) until we’re actually friends. I am looking for someone local to Denver or willing to relocate here.

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100% Rope bunny

100% Degradee

100% Submissive

87% Masochist

86% Slave

76% Primal (Prey)

Dealbreakers:

My ideal age range is 37 - 54, give or take a year but I do not like being the older partner so I am not flexible beyond that.

Minor children. I’ll date a father if his children are adults but I am not looking to be a stepmother (or a mother).

You’re outside of Denver and not willing/planning to move here.

You’re married/partnered/poly.

You're just looking for kinky chat.

You didn't read the whole post.