Look, ownership is a serious subject. And I am in no way trying to look down on those who are surfing DPP looking for a quickie and want to get right into the extremes. But every time I talk to a sub and they hit me with "Oh I just want to be locked up in my Master's basement forever and abused non-stop and treated like a piece of trash" I just hit them with the same thing:

"But... why?"

And then it falls apart. Honestly, I get it. It's fun to imagine those extremes. It's a high to dip your toes into the forbidden and taboo. But it's just so... boring. Sure, you can message me and I can call you a slut. We can go back and forth about how the idea of having a no-limits slave is enticing. But that voice in the back of my head is just screaming into the void about how there's no substance there. Wait.. you don't want any semblance of love or affection in your life? You want me to have a slave locked up in my bedroom that nobody ever sees? Even when I'm not home? What if there's a fire? Who is going to have too many drinks with me after a long week and laugh while I butcher 'Hey, Jealousy' at karaoke?

The reality is if I don't understand the reason those buttons of yours exist, I won't enjoy pushing them. Degrading a stranger does nothing for me. It just makes me feel like a virtual dildo to be used, or, worse yet, an asshole. I don't enjoy seeing, or thinking about someone in pain. It's understanding why that person is willing to suffer for me that drives me absolutely wild.

I have a full kink list in my profile, and several prompts / stories in there as well if you want to get an idea for the things that really speak to me.

I'm looking to talk to people who want to get into the intricacies of Dominance and submission. People that want to get introspective and walk that edge together over the course of a great conversation, or even many conversations. I can only talk to someone about unrealistic scenarios or fucking and sucking for so long before I start thinking... Ugh, this meeting chat could have been an email a pornhub search.

Lets talk about whats going on in our head when He's edging you towards that release you've been craving and then snatches it away from you.

Lets talk about why you're desperate for someone to take away your choices.

Lets talk about how badly you crave to be shown off as His perfect toy.

Lets get into detailed, impossibly nuanced discussion about the beauty of ritual and protocol and talk about how fucking hot it can be to take direction about your behavior in the front seat of the car before we even enter the party we're attending.

Hit me with your favorite food so I know you've taken some time to read this far and please hit me with why this spoke to you so we have something to build from.