Disclaimer: This post is absolutely meant to be inclusive. However, if you're AMAB or adjacent I just ask that you be willing to come at this from a femme-presenting perspective because that's where my attraction lies. Seriously I cannot over-state how impactful that is for me. Thanks!

So at the very root of all of my many, many kinks lies the same thing: power exchange. It's all about that sweet, sweet -- and consensual -- surrendering of power from a submissive partner. Why? Well it's because in a lot of ways it's diametrically opposed to who I am in my vanilla life. Am I feeble push-over? Far from it. I'm a confident, assertive, and somewhat physically imposing dude. What I am, however, is kind, generous, and always willing to sacrifice for those around me. I'll be the first in line to help you move. I'll be ready with my tools to fix that thing in your bathroom to save you a little cash. I'll roll out of bed at 2AM to give you a lift because the Uber's aren't showing up. You can often catch me supporting whatever bleeding-heart liberal cause happens to be gathering downtown on the weekend or supporting the women in tech I work with on a daily basis.

Which is what makes that other part of me so delicious for many people. See my kink self is just... not that guy. Don't get me wrong. I still absolutely need to care for and protect my sub. After care is just as important for me as it is for them. But that Dom-space is a dark one. It's selfish, aggressive, often violent, highly particular, and endlessly sadistic. And while I'm happy to wield something stingy or thuddy from time to time to put some marks on my property, and face slapping is a top kink of mine, my taste lies far more in the mental and emotional sadism than the physical. Degradation. Humiliation. Misogyny. I absolutely love to demean, contort, manipulate, and torture my submissive with my words. Pushing all of those buttons they've willingly taken the safety covers off for me until they're a quivering, leaking mess at my feet begging me to... well, just begging.

So, yeah. There's me putting it all out there. As for the "who am I beyond kink" part? Pretty run of the mill: 40 year old, cis white guy. Work in tech. Reasonably successful. Annoyingly logical. Kinda witty. Sorta funny. Articulate-ish. Like smacking small things with objects (golf, tennis, hockey... people).

About you: Charming, interesting, and willing to hold up your end / drive part of the conversation. I have no interest in needling you for information. I want someone who is looking to dive into those fun parts with someone who won't judge them. Beyond that I'd love to hit it off and just make more kinky friends. I don't care if you're attached, poly, single, whatever, as long as you can give me some time and not dip out after getting yourself off.

My kinks aren't super important for the sake of conversation, but here are a few to get your wheels turning if needed: Consent, D/s, M/s, TPE, 50's household, domestic discipline, impact, breeding, degradation, humiliation, hyper-femininity, body modification, piercings, watersports, raceplay, virtual hotwife / showing off my partner, CNC, detail, good times, laughter, bad jokes.

Soft limits: Blood, scat-adjacent, receiving pain, switching (I can but those types are few and far between, I've found but shoot your shot because theres a hell of a good-boy in there), pegging.

Hard Limits: IRL sharing, vore, gore, heavy scat, anthro, magical stuff, underage... others that aren't coming to mind but feel free to ask!

Full kink list: https://i.imgur.com/qHMG8rz.png

Looking forward to getting to know you!