I discovered the bdsm lifestyle about 4 years ago and like toothpaste in a tube, I can’t put it back. I am in a dead bedroom marriage with the only man I’ve ever been with physically and have had one online/irl dom. So technically I’ve only been with 2 men. I am still married and no, he doesn’t know. I understand if this is a dealbreaker, but this is how it needs to stay. He is very vanilla, but he gives me family, which I need, but not bdsm, which I also need. The daddy I had taught me I can’t live without this, but he keeps ghosting me, so yeah, I’ve got abandonment/silent treatment issues. I’m looking for a dom/daddy who will be there for me anytime I need him, who understands he owns me, but we both know family and job comes first. Availability wise, I am a business owner and do what I want whenever I want m-f 8-6, then I’m a bit slower in the evening and weekends. Would love to find a dom with a similar schedule because I seriously miss being virtually fucked in my car during lunch.

I took that bdsm quiz thingy and scored 100% for submissive, brat, and rope bunny. I am a successful entrepreneur, have two older teens who don’t need me anymore and I’m fit as fuck. This body of mine is craving bondage and submission like a ravenous dog craves meat. I can be a mouthy brat, which means your hand should be firm, your words should be strict, your control should be ever present, and your discipline should be at the forefront of my mind, making me think twice about the spanking you’ll give me if I say the bratty thing I’m about to say. I am not motivated by gentle; nor am I reward driven. I thrive on discipline, control, and structure from my dom.

One of the biggest red flags for me is when a dom tries to dom me without knowing me or my hard limits. Get to know me, establish a connection, get your hands into my mind, then my body is yours. Not the other way around. I can’t do humiliation or degradation; I’ve tried. It goes way back for me. If you call me a slut, the alpha in me will rise up and want to fight and any potential subspace you’ve created will disintegrate immediately. My other limits are illegal or icky or permanent things. I also don’t share very well, I have no problem sharing you with your wife if you’re in the same situation as I am, but you have other subs, we likely won’t be a good fit.

If you message me, I will look at your profile and will not respond if it’s littered with dick pics or other women, nor will I write back if you can’t spell or use punctuation correctly. You need to be educated, 35 , preferably local to Detroit, DDF, a low body count because you’re picky, not a switch - I need all alpha, all the time. If you are not a brat tamer, I will inadvertently piss you off quite quickly, so please know how to handle a brat. Know she needs a firm hand and words like “understood?” and “excuse me?” when she spouts off. There needs to be consequences for the attitude, and you absolutely must follow through on them, every time. I will test you on this very quickly as to not waste one another’s time. Don’t message me if brats piss you off. This means you’re not a tamer, which is fine, but we won’t click. When I brat you should <insert evil grin> because you know you’re about to give me what I really need.

One of the most frustrating questions potential doms ask me is what makes me worth their time, as if my time isn’t valuable as well. I’m not a doormat, I will not bend to your will right off the bat. That takes time. If you don’t understand that, we aren’t a good fit.

I know you’re out there. Message me please Sir. Tell me all about you, your situation, and your ability to be my firm and slightly sadistic tpe-lite owner. We can start off here and then move to telegram or discord, no I don’t have snap or some garbage text now shit. Tg or discord, period.

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==100% Brat100% Rope bunny100% Submissive80% Masochist55% Primal (Prey)41% Vanilla38% Slave23% Experimentalist23% Exhibitionist16% Voyeur15% Pet0% Degradee0% Non-monogamist0% Daddy/Mommy0% Rigger0% Ageplayer0% Brat tamer0% Degrader0% Dominant0% Boy/Girl0% Master/Mistress0% Owner0% Primal (Hunter)0% Sadist0% Switch