Recently some guy slipped into my DMs and asked what my go-to sex move is. It initially seemed like yet another annoying question, but then I reframed it to myself as a question of what moment do I suspect men I am with would consider the hottest.

Enjoyed thinking through this for several days.

I realized that my go-to is unquestionably the ten second window after I’ve decided I simply must put him in my mouth.

I always have a hair tie around my wrist. Always always. So after I decide it’s about to go down (or shall we say I’m about to go down? 😂), I’ll make eye contact, bite my lip a bit, methodically and slowly put my hair up in a ponytail or messy bun, and savor the intensity of the moment. It’s ten seconds of “I’m about to rock your world, suck your soul right out of your body, and leave you forgetting all about every other woman on earth.”

If he’s smart enough not to speak… it’s perfect. It’s the hottest moment. Presumably for him. Definitely for me.