I realize I'm posting on a dirty subreddit, but hopefully this strikes a chord with someone: I want to get a crush on you, and obviously I'd like it to be mutual. Nothing hits quite like good chemistry.

Transactional "hey we're attracted enough" sex can be fun, but I want to really want you. I want to be able to banter and have a conversation (that isn't sexting) in order to make it that much hotter when it does get dirty. I want to have something to talk about when we're laying in bed, and make each other laugh before we go again. What can I say; I like a quick wit. It's boring as hell when every conversation is predictable.

I'm not looking for romance, just a legit friend with benefits. Casual. Light. It's okay if you're in a relationship (I am), but having a bit of availability and logistical skills are a must.

Me? I'm in my early 40s, average height, curvy, thick thighs, big eyes. I used to be a bit punk and I still have the spirit even though I look more like a librarian. I love movies and books that have solid plot twists, and I'm a sucker for a caper or mystery even if it's a little mediocre. I am stuck in my music tastes from my 20s but love latching on to something new - I'd love a playlist of things you think I'd like. I've changed careers a couple times and I have the grab bag of stray hobbies and interests that comes with that. I'm "very online" and unashamed of it, but also like to be outdoors when it's not a bazillion sweaty degrees out.

You: - Were born in the 70s or 80s. Firm limit. - Know how to keep up your side of a conversation - Are open to kink but aren't driven by it (i.e., regular ol' sex is a delight but sometimes we might get weird) - Know that a contextless POV shot of your dick is not sexy - Attractive in some way that gives you confidence. Maybe you have sexy salt & pepper hair, really strong shoulders, nice calves, good tats, a sexy smile, a hot accent... Something that gives you a little swag. - You legitimately want to be friends in addition to hooking up. We don't have to be besties, certainly, but I have to enjoy your brain (not in a zombie way, promise).

Hope this goes well. Experience being Woman On Internet suggests I'll get a lot of messages, so bear with me if it takes me a hot second to reply.