If you consider that Desire - either Pearl or RM (which one are you going to?) is just a classy, relaxed, small resort with a pool, excellent food, and a hot tub - you really can't go wrong.

Now, add in that if you want, you can take your top off, or you can be totally nude if you want. No big deal - that shit happens in the rest of the world and no one bats an eye. Okay cool, you don't have to worry about tan lines but you do need to think of where to keep cash for tipping. Room keys are built into your bracelet which is awesome if you don't have pockets. Still no big deal - no one will EVER tell you to take your swimsuit off and no one will look at you funny for wearing one. I have been a bunch of times and never been nude in the pool.

Now add in that there are beds around the hot tub, and if you wanted, you can fool around on them. Do it during the day and maybe no one is around. Cool. Do it at night and you might need to wait in line for a bed but while you are waiting, you can watch others. Cool! it is like porn but with real people! Still no big deal. No one will EVER force you to participate and no one will ever judge you for feeling like it is all too much and hiding in your room for a little bit.

Now add in that maybe there are people there that define their relationships differently than you and if they want to mix and match, that is 1000% their business. No one there will EVER judge you for swapping, or not swapping. If you don't like it, see my above comment about hiding in your room. No one will EVER force you to participate and very VERY rarely will you get propositioned unless you are actively putting out the vibe that you want to participate. Members of the lifestyle are NOT sex crazed orgy fiends. They are normal people that define things a little differently and statistically speaking, you know LS people right now but you aren't LS so it has never come up because you don't do LS things that are recognized by LS members.

All in all, it is my favorite place on the planet. I've been to RM and to Pearl and they are very similar except for layout. The ages are varied depending on week and season, but generally 30s-60s. There are hard bodies and dad bodies and fluffy bodies and skinny bodies. We don't judge and you shouldn't either :-)