So here's my deal.. I'm a 40yo hetero man in a very confusing place after my wife came out as ace and basically says she never wants sex again. I don't really want to break up our family, but I also don't want to be celibate for the rest of my life. She wants me to find a prostitute, but the idea of fucking someone who is pretending to be into me seriously grosses me out, so instead we're trying an open marriage, and in particular I'm exclusively looking for a FWB arrangement rather than a romantic one.

So I'm thinking about my past, and I had lots of instances where I had gone home with a girl and for some reason just froze before sex, as well as a few one night stands where I was able to perform but it was an uncomfortable experience. I've also had some FWB arrangements that were wonderful even though those friendships mostly centered around fucking. These weren't deep connections really, but just not total strangers. And I am 100% down with the idea of forming a friendship with someone over having good sex -- I just can't do that until we've hung out a bit.

So.. Is demisexual the right label here? Or do I need to look elsewhere ?