The world is made up of 2 types of people.

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1. Those who conform, follow the herd, walk the beaten path ---- 90% of people (the sheep)
2. Those who stray, deflect from it all to make their own mark ---- the other 10%

Everything about us as individuals, follows these 2 fundamental ways of life. All of our core beliefs, obsessions, associated anxiety triggers, sum up only to serve one of these 2 fundamental ways of living.

But, it is not a constant. Anybody can change from one to the other, anytime during their course of life. What causes this switch in the fundamental mode, is some big life event or a collective influence of significant small life events.

Historically, we all start out as conformers, part of the herd, babies growing up trying to be like everyone else around, trying to fit in, to belong, living up to the expectations of the parents. And a life event that changes it all, could happen anytime, from the time of birth to well into midlife or later.

A life event = anything during one's life, that leaves behind lasting trauma or influence, changes our core beliefs, obsessions or anxiety triggers.

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All human psychology is based on the flow -> Influence/ Trauma >> Beliefs >> Anxiety >> Obsessions >> Compulsions. We are all slaves to our minds, which are slaves to our beliefs. Beliefs accumulated from Influence and Trauma, which have the chance of changing, only through a life event. Beliefs, which are always associated with persistent fears.

We are exactly what we are meant to be.....nothing more, nothing less. A product, a sum, of our experiences and circumstances all through life. Everything else is just the ingredients that make them up. Parents, siblings, (family/ relatives), school, neighbours, colleagues, friends -- just ingredients, contributing to each others' experiences and circumstances. But really, just manifesting and playing out their own core beliefs and obsessions, from their past. Our choices, are the result of all of our underlying core beliefs, obsessions, insecurities and anxiety triggers. Our lives are our choices, but our choices are bound by our past experiences and circumstances.

Nobody is good or bad, they are all just what they are/ were supposed to be, what their experiences and circumstances led them to be. The power of choice is really not choice at all, it is bound by who we are (a summation of our past). Blaming someone is easy. Understanding that they are foul and vile and hurtful, because of their own past, is a start to something peaceful.

Everything about us, has roots in our childhood. That is where you will find all the answers to questions you don't even contemplate about yourself. The 'sheep' people will always go through life, living in blissful ignorance; while the remainder will suffer and endure helplessly or discover their talent through obsessions driven by self-realised coping behaviour.

To knoweth this, is to begin knowing yourself....and eventually all of whom that have hurt us or loved us.

Forgive yourself for not knowing, forgive others for their past made them so.

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How we are in the present, is always because of our past. Accept, forgive your past and you find peace in the present.