26 year old woman here.

I don't talk to people about my journey in real life but had a traumatic childhood and relied on all 4 a lot. Was addicted to hardcore porn and masturbating.

Was smoking weed everyday and mixing it with tobacco up until 4 months ago and drinking semi-heavily like 4 times a week. Over 4 months I cut it down down to smoking once a week maximum, because cold turkey with my depression was hard. Then realised I'm losing nothing by cutting out tobacco and cutting down alcohol and weed. I'm gaining so much more.

I'm not quitting weed forever, but I'm quitting my dependence on it. I've decided if I want some weed, I'll just put it in my dry herb vaporiser and have it once a week if I want to. Since cutting out tobacco I have had no urge to have any weed and I've had very little urge to drink. I think it became habitual. Each day I tell myself not to drink, one step at a time. It's working so just going to continue that.

But I'm done with tobacco. I'm officially a non-smoker. I tell myself I don't smoke, and that helps me with cravings. If I get cravings I can step out of my urge and analyse my thoughts. The cravings go away too. It's working.

Dramatically cut back on masturbation too, fapped only once this month, trying to rewire my brain. Fuck porn.

Started meditating and doing yoga, which is helping in abundance. I'm doing Brazilian Jiu Jitsu now too. Told my instructor I used to have bad depression and stopped smoking recently. At first I felt I was over sharing and immediately said sorry. He just said clapped his hand on my shoulder and said "welcome home buddy." Made me feel real good.

I'm reading more too. Reading Tyson Fury's autobiography. When I'm sparring on the mat I think of him and his lows and how he never gives up. It keeps me going.

I started therapy in September 2021. I like my therapist, she's cool. She challenges my way of thinking.

My overall take since deciding to be better:

Sobriety is nice. I'm irritable from the lack of tobacco, but if I get cravings to smoke a joint I just pop one of those nicotine chewing gums and I feel good. Only had one yesterday near bed time cus I craved a joint. I'm sleeping 8 hours a night most nights since October, and having that crisp sharp focus is real nice. I like it a lot. I feel good. Much nicer than being fucked all the time. It's nice to feel present. Sobriety is real nice.

Thanks for listening. Take care x

Edit: A lot of you have messaged me on tips on how to overcome. I just want to stress that this is not overnight, it took me 3 years to get to where I am with my porn quitting. Google: 'Sex Addition: A Self Help Guide.' It changed my life. My previous posts on this account will also help. Regarding the weed/tobacco/alcohol, it took me about 4 months to cut down slowly and I did it week by week, smoking everyday to smoking 6 times, then 5, then 4, and it worked. Yoga and meditation helped me abundantly. Download the 'Down Dog: Yoga' app. Meditation and yoga help me 'step outside' my thoughts and analyse why I'm having the urge in the first place when I have an urge. They don't consume me, and once I step outside the thought it's very easy to ignore. Love and peace to you all x