I’m sorry if this turns into a long read, but I seriously feel like i’m about to explode. I really appreciate anyone who actually reads this. My ambitions are just getting destroyed. I can’t move forward because of my damn anxiety and this constant need to please everyone. I’m not gonna go into the whole backstory, but here’s the short version: I moved to another country, barely know the language, and it’s fucking with my head. My confidence is destroyed, I’m shy as hell, and I don’t talk to people anymore. But here’s the thing that’s been bothering me the most, i’ve become way too nice. And now I feel like i’m turning into a jerk because of it. I used to be the quiet, reserved guy who always tried to make everyone happy. Always saying “yes,” always agreeing with people, always trying to be the nice guy. And guess what? People fucking took advantage of that. I was always so nice and understanding, but now I’m asking myself: why the hell should I keep being nice when no one else is? So many people are nice just to get validation, to feel good about themselves and I’ve realized I’ve been doing that too. It hit me hard, and it made me so fucking mad. So I’m trying to fix it. When you’re always people pleasing, you’re just being naive as hell. You’re lying to yourself and everyone around you. You agree with everything people say because you don’t want to offend anyone, but it just feels embarrassing as fuck. It makes you lose who you are. And the worst part? The more nice you are, the less people actually respect you. You become an easy target for them to walk all over you. But I’m done with that shit. To put it bluntly, no one gives a fuck about you. You’re not special. You’re just like everyone else. Yeah, that’s harsh, but it’s the truth. So why the hell do you care so much? Think about your own day how often do you care about what other people do? Exactly. Hardly ever. That’s exactly how people see you too. They’re too busy with their own shit to care about you. Once you get that, the anxiety just disappears. Here’s the real issue: nice people always put everyone else first, always look for approval, and it’s honestly a really toxic trait to have. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a difference between being “kind” and being “nice.” Being kind is real—you do it because you genuinely want to help. But being nice? You’re just doing it to get something back, to be liked, to feel validated. And you’re lying to yourself about it. That’s something I’ve been trying to fix, but damn, it’s hard. I’m not a bad person, but I’ve learned the hard way that being “nice” just makes people see you as weak. I learned that at my last job. I tried so hard to make a good impression. Everything was fine at first, and I was happy to help. But slowly, I ended up carrying a bunch of their expectations. And guess what? They started talking shit behind my back, even though I was being nothing but nice to them. They acted like I was the problem, even though I was new, struggling with the language, and they had been there for years. And the final kick in the balls? They fired me because “the team couldn’t work well with me.” Well, fuck that.