I'm not a very motivated person and have never been. I've been struggling with depression, anxiety, and people pleasing tendencies for about 10 years now and I want to change, its just that I'm lost, don't know where to start, and have no motivation to do anything.

I go to the gym, I eat healthy, I get sleep, I drink water, I do majority of the things that are healthy for me but for some reason I can't kick my problems, it feels out of reach for me, like I'm too far gone and I'm 20. I don't have any close friends, nor do I have a girlfriend at this point and I want to stop focusing all my energy on getting a girlfriend, but I get so lonely that I get desperate and I spend money on dating apps to get matches and girls to text, then I ghost them.

I have a lot of problems that I dont know how to deal with. How do I get the motivation to do anything when I have nothing and lost everything in my life.