I've been having some trouble with my parents as I suffer from loneliness and depression. As I've gotten older I've noticed some toxic/frustrating traits in my parents that have been passed down to me.

My mom worried too much, she is always reminding me to do stuff like I'm a six year old (I'm 20). She still reminds me to brush my teeth before I go on dates, or before bed (I'm literally a 20 year old guy). I don't tell her about my life because she overreacts to everything I tell her and it stresses me out.

My dad is a people pleaser, he always taught me that if you are nice to people and always help out, you'll get rewarded. That did not turn out well for me. He always does what my mother says, or goes above and beyond with something just to make her happy, wether or not its possible (he complains every day how much hes stressed out and tired).

These traits and many more have rubbed off on me. I had a rough highschool because I was a people pleaser, and I never took risks to do the things I really wanted because I was worried what others would think about me.

I want to change this, I don't want to be like my parents, I want to be a leader not a follower, I just don't know where to start. I'm tired of living like how I am and I want to change.