I've been sleeping with this guy for almost a year, I broke it off a month ago because we had conversations where I told him that I wanted to hang out outside of sex, he agreed that's what he wanted to. (nothing crazy just like getting a drink or something once in a while) I didn't want a relationship w this man but I did want to be friends and go do things once in awhile. we had that conversation two months ago and he didn't take any initiative and I always felt since the beginning he never followed thru with what he said he was going to do so I left. I got love bombed and breadcrumbed. he told me he loved me first was always chasing me etc. he called me at 2am last Saturday saying he loves me and misses me and asking talk etc. (I say no) then the other day I saw on his story that he's been hanging out with this girl going to dinner etc. they're not dating but have been hanging out for like maybe a month or two. they basically have the relationship I wanted us to have, and im hurt and I just feel really fucking stupid. I'm a very understanding and kind person and I just feel SO used and dumb. how do I feel better?? this aching feeling just won't go away. ugh. I really wish I never met him. I think he's the first person I've lost love for.

EDIT: after reading all these comments I think I may have a different idea of what fwb looks like? like to me outside of sex it’s also like grabbing a drink or texting once in a while (not constantly) etc. not like talk everyday, pick me up at 6pm for dinner type thing. that to me would be dating but maybe there’s not much of a difference? there were mutual feelings on both sides. this wasn’t a no emotion involved type thing. It was more than sex for both of us but he was always so hot and cold and I need consistency. anyways, thank you to everyone who had kind things to say instead of belittling me.