Hey all,

I’ve been reading through a lot of posts here and need some advice for a close friend. She’s in her late 30s, HLF, and she’s been with her LL husband for over 10 years. She just opened up to me about how their dead bedroom really kicked in about two years ago, and she’s been super frustrated ever since. She says the constant rejection is killing her self-esteem and she’s starting to feel like she’s not attractive or desirable anymore. It’s really messing with her confidence.

For the HLFs out there who have dealt with this — how do you keep feeling sexy when you’re always getting shut down? How do you hold onto any sense of sexual identity when your partner just isn’t into it?

I’d love to share any advice or experiences you’ve got with her. She’s feeling super alone in this, and I know she’s not the only one dealing with it.

Thanks to anyone who replies.