I’m at the end of my rope. When my wife and I dated, we were ALWAYS having sex! It was great! I never expected that the thing we did most while dating would be the thing I’m being completely deprived of for most of our marriage!

It’s been about a month since we last had sex and she made me feel like I was nothing but a burden for asking! Prior to that, it had been two months or so twice in that one week. Prior to that, we hadn’t had sex since some time in Summer!

That week about three months ago, she guilt tripped me for jerking off when she walked in on me doing it in the bathroom! I told her that if I actually got laid more than every few months, I wouldn’t have to jerk off or watch porn. I used to pride myself in being able to please her in bed. I have this rule where I’ll never let myself cum first. I go down on her the same way I always have, I play with her the same way she always used to like, but she complains and makes excuses constantly!

She says she’s sensitive down there since our last baby was born (it’s been 8 months), but won’t go see a doctor. She says sex is boring now but won’t incorporate any of our toys or lingerie into the mix. She says she likes it better penetrative, but when I seek methods to improve my duration time in bed; she won’t have sex with me so what’s the point in seeking improvement?

I really am at the point where I want to quit. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a year now but she won’t attend any sort of marriage counseling. I’ve tried talking. This is the mother of my kids who’s been jobless for over 5 years. I’ve supported her for all these years, but I’m afraid if I call it quits; she’ll take everything from me…

Sorry for the rant.