I (29F) have been with my husband (29M) for 9 years. He treats me like a queen, is so affectionate, and basically does everything right but sex…

I’m extremely HL and could have sex everyday whereas he’s happy with once every week to week and a half.

I’m kinky and he’s not. He tries to be dominant but you can’t really teach someone to be dominant. When we have sex it is just so lack luster. I wish more than anything in this world that I could be ok with vanilla sex.

I know it’s not polite to say, but I’m a good looking girl. I’m in excellent shape and even with a ring on I get propositioned by men while I’m out. My husband is in excellent shape- basically our only issue is sex. Im attracted to him and the sex is decent but it’s not enough for me.

I hate myself so freaking much for it. Truly I’m the villain in this story because he does nothing wrong.

I know he desires me but I want someone with such intense passion for me that they want to rip my clothes off when they come home. He’s so organized and sex is never spontaneous. My friends talk about having sex in their kitchens, living rooms etc.. for us it’s only the bed or shower and he prefers the shower 9/10 because he hates getting sweaty.

He doesn’t moan, or dirty talk. I find myself getting un attracted to him now in sexual settings.

I think a huge issue is that he used to focus so much on work that I felt so neglected and ignored. He runs a company but in the beginning stages he was married to the company. He had no energy for sex and we’d have sex once every couple weeks always at my initiation. It’s completely different now but I think I still hold onto the anger of having been ignored for years.

Im sobbing as I can’t imagine continuing to live this way but I can’t imagine life without him. He’s done nothing wrong He’s doing everything right He’s trying so hard but it’s just not enough

Does anyone relate?