I have never posted and want to just express what's going on. It's great to have a community that understands the situation I'm going through too. I used to feel like I'm in the wrong for having these sexual cravings, but now that I found this community, I can safely say that I'm not wrong. my wife and i are just different.

My wife has NO desire at all to be touched or kissed in any way by me. She does have those feelings for our children (obviously not sexual with them)

Wife and I have not kissed in 2.5 years

We have not had sex in 11 months. over the last 4 years, we have probably had sex 7 times.

We have had a good sexual relationship in the past, even though I was always the much higher sex drive in the relationship. I would be happy to have sex 4 - 10 times a week depending on the week. My wife even at our best after the honeymoon phase was once or twice a week.

I love her. but i CRAVE and NEED to be touched. I know a few women in my office that will hug or touch my back when i say hi (in strictly a friendly way) and i purposely go out of my way to see them every so often to be touched.

I wish there was someting i could do to change this with my wife

We started dating in college, and back then she had a boyfirend she claimed to have sex with all the time. she also started having sex with one of my best friends (before her and i started dating) just as a casual hookup. So i know she has this in her, and i always think, well maybe its me. but she has never said that. I know part of it is that she doesnt look the way she used to, but i wish i could get her to realize that she is still a hot 10 and that i still love her body / looks.

anyways, Thank you for being here and undestanding. Also, i would love to know when you realized you were in a DB and if there are any success stories.

* leaving my wife is not an option for me - I still love her and love my family