I've off and on posted here a number of times in the past. It was a great outlet for me to vent my frustration.

I'm a 45m HL. My wife, 58, the LL, about 2 years ago started menopause. Since then, sex has been tough. She has been dry, and we've been unable to have full on proper sex. I'll admit, I've been down about that. But there have been a number of situations that developed that have affected our relationship beyond that as well. Medical issues with our kid, getting a dog which has been both a joy and a huge amount of responsibilities tacked on, money issues, etc. The list goes on.

We've been going back and forth on our plans. Divorce has been mentioned several times, only with her breaking down about it. She wants to move to a different state, whereas our plans had us moving to a different part of the country previously. And all we do is argue.

Last night, after spending a night to herself, she came home. She had talked about our past, and our present. Long story short, she thinks that 90% of our issues are due to my want for full on sex, her inability to have sex.

I was disappointed by this change, and how it affected us, but I'm very sure that this isn't 90% of our problems. Its more like 40%.

And now i feel like a jerk. My needs and wants, according to her, are causing these issues. This makes me feel broken, makes me feel like I'm an uncaring jerk.

i can't win. FML