My wife have some extensive health issues that make it hard to have sex, with that being said the times that it is possible I does nor happen. She always tells me she " isn't in the mood" or she "doesn't think about those THINGS like I do" is there anything I can do. I try to bring our sex life up in discussion but she always goes into defensive mode when I do. We have on child together, been married coming on 5 years. At the beginning sex was just in real, kinky and never ending, 3 years after daughter it just slipped off to nothing. I have extreme patience so leaving is not an option, bot looking for a way to get back that super Lobito she had.