It’s been two years today since I joined Reddit and found this sub. It has been a great forum for solace, to share, rant, give advice, hear insights from wonderful, sincere fellow sojourners and reading so many stories of similar relationships. Your openness removed questions about my perceptions, sanity and the feeling of isolation I had, for all those dear things I want to say thank you on my Cake Day. This last weekend was also my 20th wedding anniversary. In July I was making plans of leaving and calling it quits, exhausted, hopeless and wanting a fresh start … to feel LIFE once more. But things changed. We kept working at it, we faced it, the lack of connection, missing intimacy, of not feeling that our relationship was a priority. We are a work in progress. It took years to bring us to the point where we were only sporadically intimate and just identifying the reasons will take more time repairing the damage. This weekend was some of the BEST SEX we have ever had, it went hand in glove with enjoying each other’s company like we haven’t in a long time. Deep, open communication, forgiveness, saying words of commitment and doing things we used to do in better times, touchstones and memories all were crucial elements. Time will tell of course but today I am greatly encouraged, perhaps my story can be an encouragement to someone else today as well …..