My husband and I barely ever have sex, and when we do, it’s disappointing for both of us. He doesn’t want to take things as slow as I would like. When I try doing something for him, he’s never satisfied with the way I do anything. He’s always correcting me and then he ends up finishing on his own.

I try to think of new things to do in the bedroom, and tell him about them, but I get no response. We also rarely sleep in the same bed. He also doesn’t respond warmly when I try to hug or kiss him anymore.

He tells me that he never had a problem pleasing his previous girlfriends. I do not believe that.

We’ve been married for almost 20 years and this whole situation makes me very sad.

Is there a way to turn this around? I doubt he would be agreeable to go to therapy with me.

Is anyone else in a sexless marriage like this? How do you feel about it?