So we bought some new silicone lube, and I ask if we could try it out later tonight. He agreed. We get into bed ( usually we watch a movie in bed), he is already naked, but I put on a night gown. He puts on the movie.. so I thought maybe he wasn't into it now... our dog lays in our bed and he decides to move onto my lap.

My partner (39LLM) say " how can I touch you with the dog on your crotch?"

Me (38HLF) " I though you didn't want to since you put the movie on"

Him "I put the movie on for background noise for the dog"

Me "turn it off then. He doesn't need it and its too distracting"

He turns it off, I move the dog and we begin. It's going OK. I am touching his body all over sensually, we are making out, and he is touching me but goes right for my breast and pelvic region.. I asked him to touch me all over ( my back is very sensitive and I like to be touched everywhere to warm up first)

He says " I am"

Me " I need more touching of my body, I like my back touched more"

He touches my back more, and it's going good. He stops kissing me and says " I think I have A.D.D. I can't stop thinking about stuff"

I said " try to be in the moment, focus on the sensations on your body" ( we have practiced some mindfulness meditations in the past so he knows what to do)

We continue a little more, this time the lube is out and we are touching each others regions. He wants to make me cum so I tell him what I need, but he just can't take me over the edge after like 15 mins ( I can cum really fast it touched right), so I jump in and he helps out. I orgasims and try for a second right away.. he gets to kiss and touch and watch me cum for a few minutes.

Him " did you cum?"

Me " yes, twice, now it's your turn!!"

Him " I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm not hard at all"

Me " well did me coming not make you horny or hard at all?

Him " It turned me on and I love watching you but I masterbated it the shower this morning since it's been a while"

Me " that might be the problem, I know that some men can only go once. Maybe that's the issue"

Him " I don't know, maybe.. I never was like this before"

Me " so you don't want to continue then? I mean I don't mind trying"

Him " it's OK, maybe tomorrow"

We clean up and watch the movie.

Men on this sub.. please help answer these questions:

• WTF is going on here?? A.D.D when someone is touching your body and cock? Kissing you?? Any advice how to get a partner out of his head??

• One and done? ( cum in the am = unable to in the pm) Is this a sign of low testosterone? We are still waiting on the follow up on Monday to find out the results of his blood work.