I’m trying so hard to be patient but the reality is that I get frustrated and angry with our situation. What is so sad is that he (38m) says he wants a healthy sexual relationship but he cannot get past his childhood sexual abuse trauma. I’ve (33f) been constantly looking for answers. What books can we read? What exercises can we do? What therapy can he try? When my efforts are met with any type of pushback or when I feel like I’m the one that’s trying too hard and he’s just giving up and avoiding sex I get so angry and explode. We’re engaged and want a family. Today I told him I’m running out of time and he had the attitude like ok if we cannot get pregnant we will try IVF. Like he’s not upset with the fact that we only have sex a handful of times throughout the year? And the sex is complicated in regards to his pleasure in it. He told me his stomach hurts after he comes...so I told him it’s not just about getting pregnant. I can’t marry someone who is so accepting the fact that there is so little sex :( I feel terrible. I don’t want to abandon someone who basically has a disability but I told him he may be better suited to someone who has little to no libido. I’m so confused. I feel like I could have been up for this challenge. A journey we could go through together as a couple and it would build trust and intimacy. But it’s. Been. Years. :( we’ve been together 4 years total and it’s not forever but again I’m loosing my window to make a family