After many years with a partner with attachment issues, years of overt or covert rejection (long story, I've posted about it several times), I have now completely stopped wanting my partner. I don't trust them with my sexuality at all.

Cuddling is fine, but if the touches start resembling anything sexual, I just freeze. My former healthy sexuality is destroyed, I can't even watch porn, masturbate or fantasise, I just start crying.

My partner has changed a lot the last year and is a lot more attentive and loving now. Our friendship and coparenting is good.

I look at our happy, secure and lovely young children and know that I would much rather remain celibate than do anything to disturb their feeling of safety. But the thought of my sexuality being dead before I'm 40 fills me with so much dread.

So, is it possible to trust an LL partner again? Want them again?