Something I’d like to ask you all, both HLs and LLs: what comes first, thinking about sex leads to your HL or is it your HL has you thinking about sex? LL, opposite: do you NOT think about sex and does your LL follow?

Perhaps this is a simplistic question and I am looking for insight that isn’t actually very deep but I am curious about the pattern and if it might change things for some of us. If you have a normal to high sex drive do you find that you think about sex, fantasize, do things that stimulate your drive during the day that increase your desire?

For the sake of this question, I would like to leave pornography OUT of the discussion please

If you are LL, do you find that you only think about sex occasionally or when your partner initiates? Do you fantasize daily/weekly/monthly or ever? Do you read erotic literature or watch shows with erotic content specifically to be aroused?

Is fantasizing about sex an escalator taking you up or down depending on how much time you spend in that headspace or more of the bullet train/subway idea: “I am on this ride and it is just what one does here”?