My wife asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I gave her a wink. She bought me eye drops.

I’m fairly new to Reddit, I’ve commented on a couplof posts but had yet to create my own. I just wanted to say I’m thankful to have found this group. As much as I dislike being in a dead bedroom, it’s comforting to know there’s a place to commiserate with others. I wouldn’t be comfortable discussing my lack of a sex life with family or friends.

I guess I expected all the posts to be from men like myself who have been in long term relationships that have seen diminished action over the years. When we were dating it was every time together and as newlyweds at least 2-3 times a week. That led to once a week, then every other week, then once a month. Nowadays she acquiesces 2 or 3 times a year with little to no enthusiasm. She suffers from severe depression. Added to that is a stressful job and the recent passing of her father. She likes to hug and cuddle which is nice, but that typically activates my ‘launch sequence’ offending her and frustrating me.

I was surprised by the number of women posting and younger people (I’m 53) in shorter relationships (together 30 years) that have found themselves in similar circumstances. I feel for all of you.

Anyway, just wanted to introduce myself and thank all of you for sharing your stories. I wish you a bright 2021. Hopefully 2020 was rock bottom and we can move upward and onward.