My partner and I are in a weird spot right now. Sex doesn’t consume my thoughts the way it used to. I now prefer no sex at all to boring, quick sex (there were times I was so desperate I’d take any sex over nothing).

Talking to him about it seems like I’m pulling teeth. He says he wants to work on it, says he’ll try anything BUT it’s never the right time when I bring it up. I don’t bring it up the right way or maybe I bring it up too late in the day.

He told me he wanted more of an emotional connection with me. And I told him in order to have a strong emotional connection I needed physical intimacy. He was not super fond of that answer but then said well “I can’t initiate without a stronger emotional connection.”

And I can’t give him that unless we rebuild our sex life. Fuck.