We’ve been approaching a DB for a while. She gets really bad stomach aches, but she also have a low sex drive otherwise.

I tell her that I feel as though we only have sex on her terms when we get into arguments, which I feel is true, as she has only initiated one or twice in the three years we’ve dated. She told me that she found that creepy.

Partially, I genuinely want an honest opinion on whether what I said was wrong. If it is, I take full responsibility. However, I don’t feel that that is a super extreme thing to say.

She told me partially the reason why she doesn’t initiate is because she’s afraid of me telling her no. Ironic, isn’t it. She knows full well I have severe confidence issues, and yet decides that my responsibility is to be the one who has to go through that.

I don’t think we’re quite at a DB yet, but we’re getting there. Any help is appreciated. Sorry this is a little rant-ey, I’ve just had a lot on my mind that I wanted to talk about.