About a month ago my SO and I had really awkward, unfulfilling sex (neither of us came). After a very long talk I decided my “method” of frequently communicating my issues with our sex life was simply not working. We were stuck in a loop and the more we talked the less he wanted to have sex. He said that dropping the conversation would lead to less pressure and thus, more sex.

In the first week of no talking about sex we actually did have a good 3 sessions (and no awkwardness!). The next week we had sex twice. The week after that zero times. And this week we’ve had sex twice so far (and I suspect that number won’t go up even though he ended up not going on a month long trip).

I can’t tell if this is progress or not. I still think about sex all the time. I still feel resentment growing. The sex hasn’t been awkward the last couple of times. But...what worries me is that he’s happy. This is sex “happening organically.” He doesn’t feel pressure anymore. But I’m still horny as ever.