So my partner (m) and I (f) are 35 years old and been together for 19 years. I’ve posted on here before years ago, concerning dead bedroom issues. I guess I’d say in a long term relationship it is bound to happen fortunately it got spicy again. However now it’s starting to get dead again. Sometimes my partner is just not into it, and sometimes I am not however the older I get the more hornier I am getting, he typically has a high sex drive but because we’ve been together for so long I think he thinks it’s kind of mundane as much as I offer to do different things...he always says I’m wifey like and not slutty like which makes no sense to me (I’m big on doggy style and being on top plus love going down on him and being eaten out). We average on having sex 1-3 times a week but sometimes none at all. But it’s been two weeks without, so something is up. He again made a comment about us being together for so long and that I should keep an open mind about alternatives, when I asked if he meant open relationship he said no. He said something like taking breaks from one another like a week on and off to make things exciting (jeez we live together, bought a house together and have a 4 year old), last night we had a family dinner and he made a comment about when we have our next kid (well we can’t make one if we aren’t doing it), I know he wants another kid and he talks about it but for months straight we always miss the important sexy ovulating week for some reason plus sex is ever so sparingly). I’m so tempted to text him something sexy or whatever to turn him on because I’m so into wanting some tonight when he returns from work however I know his ways, he would maybe roll his eyes, or say “this isn’t you”, or “you don’t need to text me that”. What would be appropriate for someone like me to text to revv things up? Nothing overly excessive. Or should I not because just yesterday he was saying he just hasn’t been feeling it lately, that it wasn’t me (liar). It’s funny from the last post I thought it was my weight turning him off...lost the 15 lbs and we were sex lovin however I recently gained just 5 lbs, and its hard for me to not think it’s because of my weight. He works out excessively, tiny bone frame, we are occasionally the same weight. I’m 5’6, 135 lbs now and he’s probably like 140 and 5’10...but I know his type, small skinny chicks and I’m not like that. Don’t know if that’s all in my head but it sure seems super coincidental whenever I’m 130 lbs he craves me but anything above it’s like when we hit dead bed room. I dunno...basically I’m asking how can I turn him on without looking silly or overly doing it?