That’s one of the things my boyfriend [25??M] told me [23HLF] last night when we had a calm discussion about our declining sex life. I asked him for his thoughts on why he feels things are going downhill. He said the constant pressure and feeling like a sexual object are two main reasons. I don’t know what to do with this information. In the few times I’ve guided him to pleasure me...I would always rather be having sex with him. Why don’t I straight up ask him for sex now? Because he’s tired and it’d be too much work. I have tried initiating PIV sex and it never goes well.

He feels like a sex toy because once in a blue moon I guide him to finger me? On the other hand, I have no issues giving him blowjobs without anything in return because I genuinely enjoy pleasing him.

Well if anything, I definitely feel zero desire to initiate anything now because I effectively feel like a creep. This sucks.