so, I'm not completely blame free in my DB situation. When we had "the talk" a few months ago, my wife's complaint was that I never Initiated Sex, and that she didn't feel that I found her attractive. I got defensive and responded with "Well... in 23 years you've only been turned down for Sex exactly TWICE. Once I had the Flu and just COULDN'T, and the other was just bitterness and a "Lets see how you feel.." moment." There's a lot more to it than that on my side, but I also started doing some soul searching.

And I think there was a LONG period of time that I just stopped asking for sex. It's not that I didnt WANT it.. I just stopped pursuing it, for a HANDFUL of reasons. We had back to back kids and then slowly developed a sedentary lifestyle. We both gained a Bit of weight. There was always a lot of love in our marriage, but not a whole lot of sex. Once a Week turned into every other week, turned into god knows what. I'm starting to feel like I was maybe LL and she was HL, and I can understand that problem.

When shit hit the fan last year, I started looking at myself and asking questions. What steps could I take to improve me? I sought solo counseling to see if my mindset was wrong, misplaced, etc. I found a lot of things I could improve on. I started working out a lot, I saw my physician and had a Physical and blood panel performed. I checked my testosterone levels. When the results came back, the range wasn't ULTRA low, and actually showed in the mid ranges.

I went on a full regimen of vitamins, including a testosterone support pill. Since then, my desires for her have grown dramatically... She had always claimed that I never touched her, never told her how she looked, etc. Now, I'm constantly looking at her, touching her, telling her she looks amazing...

It feels almost as if we have switched roles in that regard. Has anyone else experienced this? I know there's a lot more too it... Just an observation.