It's been a while since I posted here and I've been meaning to, life's just been busy.

Its definetly not what I expected, but I think it's good. We've gone over a bunch of stuff, but for me the biggest thing was this last session, when my wife admitted the lack of sex/quality of sex/frequency was 99.9% her fault. She's not been great with constructive criticism and rarely takes fault, so for her to admit this is big.

We've also been having sex a little more lately. Our new issue is that I can't finish lately. Granted I do believe to a degree that that ties into the quality of it, ie her being starfish and all of that, but I came close a few times and then my body cramped up. I'm told dehydration and lack of potassium might be the issue there. Sadly I'm able to finish in my own pretty easily. A really good friend of mine who is also in the counseling world (like our sex therapist) said it's easier when you don't have the pressure of someone else. Maybe that's it, I don't know.

Not sure if I have hope, which I said to the therapist in front of my wife. To my surprise, neither were surprised. Apparently that's typical of the one who initiates therapy.

Here's to hoping. Enjoy the week.