I posted here a few weeks back after the wife and I had a major fight as I'm tired of the rare occasions of having sex, and tired of not feeling wanted, or attractive.

We went on Thursday to our first sex therapy session. It was interesting, to say the least. She advised that she feels there is nothing wrong with this. She speaks to her friends and because they agree with her, it seems to validate her. I advised right in front of her that that is a logical fallacy and I inherently disagree.

I still get hugs, kisses, occasional hand holding, so there is a sliver of hope, albeit a tiny one. I'm not sure anymore. I'm literslly torn. I realize I'm using the sunken cost fallacy, but it's hard to walk away from 9 years of life, relationships, etc. That said, I'm not too far from there because unless this sex therapy has some epic surprises, I'm not thinking I'll get to where I'd need to be to feel happy and content.

I also made it abundantly clear that I would not move forward with having children with her until I was confident that I would come at a higher place in the relationship, meaning after her mom, brother, father, etc.

We shall see. Thanks for reading.