So here’s a little background I’m (43m) hL and my wife (39f) ll have been married for 5 years. We never had sex like rabbits even during our dating period. Now it’s barely once a month! We tried to have a child but due to her endometriosis that is no longer an option. A few months ago she opened up that she loves me but cannot have sex with me. It goes even deeper there’s very little intimacy at all from her - little to no kisses, no hugs, no I love you unless I initiate. Nothing. She has low self esteem and body issues. She no longer allows me to see her naked. Yet she does care about my well being, buys me clothes or anything else I need. I try deeply to give her the best life no stress about having dinner, I clean and do laundry and handle my ironing as well. I never demand anything from her except love. I worked my ass off to provide - I earn more than her but we split bills. Two years ago we purchased a home and things seemed ok albeit sex was lacking. I could go on and on here but admit I’m not perfect. I keep things to myself but have been working on it. I don’t see eye to eye with some of her friends but that’s ok. She says we have and I agree what everyone wished they had in a relationship but we are “too comfortable “. I get home late from work due to my commute so there are times I’m pretty beat but she wants to do everything and not miss a single event. I’m ok with missing one or two. You have everything a man could provide you yet you can’t be affectionate or show any signs of psychical attention.

I’m frustrated and angry of being rejected. At this point I barely ask for it. We are in therapy as a couple while she is in individual therapy for her other issues. Like I said there’s so much I could say but..... I love her but growing distant from her. I now masterbate throughout the week to calm my urgency and started to look at maybe obtaining an AP.

She loves me but not that lovey dovey affectionate way. But don’t touch or kiss her. I’m at wits end. I hunger for that touch that kiss that romp in bed. And yet I love her. Hence dazed and confused.