So it starts out as hot sex nearly all the time then as the relationship or marriage goes from months into years the sex starts to become not so hot,so you try to spice it up and at first it works then cools again....then you notice when ever you have sex it's because you initiated it so you wait for them to ask but it doesn't happen so you go back to asking then nearly begging. After a while you start to question yourself (what's wrong with me?). First the answer to that is there's nothing wrong with you as i found out when i was going through it with my ex wife and again my GF of ten years thery both did the same thing and now it seems it's my current wife's turn but this time i remember when i went through it before that if their not taking care of you some one else might want to. No i'm not saying go off and have an affair but enjoy the fact that you are still disirable and if your mate can't see it someone else will. Sometimes that might wake them up!