I'm a bit new here, so please excuse me if this question is a no-brainer for you all. Since the birth of my first child, the amount of sex my wife and I have has been dropping steadily. In recent years, it's been like once or twice a month on average. Sometimes every other month. Although I've often expressed my frustration, it wasn't until a month or two ago that the frequency increased - mainly because we had a very serious talk during which I made it quite clear that I was beginning to think it might be better if we were not together. Now, sex is almost once a week (which is what I want at minimum). But the thing is she is still mostly not affectionate - avoids kissing, hugging, touching, etc. - except when it's time for sex ... although sometimes she'll not allow kissing during sex. She says she just doesn't like any acts of affection, and doesn't have a desire for sex, but will do it as if it's her duty. I've told her repeatedly that more than sex, I love the kissing and the touching, etc. But she keeps boiling it down to sex. So, yes, I'm having sex, but I don't feel like we're really making love like we did early in our marriage. Know what I mean? Am I just being too demanding or is what I want reasonable? Would my bedroom be considered dead still?