As I prepare to enter month #4 of my DB with my LL partner, and swallow the anger behind hearing her latest excuse as to why alternatives are off the table...

(I asked her to spoon with me this morning in bed. She whined "my body is broken" and left the bedroom.)

...I'm left to deal with my anger and disappointment, and try to be a decent husband and not take this shit personally.

But it leaves me to think - what if I were dealing with a medical issue that prevented PIV sex? Would I be willing to oblige requests for alternative sex, or even offer?

Im curious to know if any other HL partners out there have thought about this. What If you were dealing with a medical issue that prevented PIV sex, but alternatives (oral, manual, etc.) were possible? Would you offer, oblige when asked, or make up excuses / wallow in self pity when asked by your partner to engage in such alternatives?

How would you feel if you denied your partner such alternatives, and then your partner turned to porn or toys?