I am a 22 year old female, and according to Reddit and the entire world, my husband (23) is supposed to have the sex drive of a rabbit. Yet we never have sex. It ridiculous how I have to go through all types of hoops to get him to make love to me... I don't think he fully understands how I feel and what his rejections are doing to my self esteem.

To answer any wondering thoughts, according to him, I am the hottest girl on the planet. I don't see it but he does. We have been married for 3 years, and I think the honey moon was the last time we did it like bunnies. I am very kinky, so I am literally up for anything, all He has to do is ask. I have lost 20 lbs and have updated my wardrobe and self confidence. And yes we have talked about this. NOTHING WORKS!

We have sex at most 1 time a month and in this month alone it has barely been once... And when we do, he ends up climaxing before me and is not up to help me out..

I just want to know what else I can do? Or just know if there is anyone else who can relate to my situation.. All I can say is I feel like I should have married my finger, since its a better lover than my husband.

TL;DR- 22 yo female, married, only has sex once a month (if she's lucky). In need of more sex from her husband, help her out!

UPDATE: First of all, I want to thank everyone for the advice. I literally took everything into account and tried to reply to most of you. We did have a discussion last night and now more than ever he knows my concerns and how I feel. No, I didn't give him an ultimatum, he was willing to change and help, for not only me but for both of us. We decided on a schedule of at least 3 times a week and we would begin with me first. Allowing me to be closer to climax than him when it gets more intense. We will then talk about it again in a few weeks. I hope this plan lasts longer than a few weeks.

Again, thanks everyone and I wish everyone the best with their issues in the bedroom. And for those starting a new journey, good luck and happy humping! :)