Specifically I say men because my partner is a man. Me 35f HL him 34m LL We have not a complete DB situation but he has never accepted an advancement when I’ve made one. You can see my previous posts but I’ll sum up here. We’ve been together for almost 3 years trying to conceive. He’s never seemed very interested. He makes the occasional advancement. His excuse is always that he’s tired. He does work odd hours but he’s been “tired” for weeks on end with no intimacy on the weekends when he doesn’t work and we are going to the gym etc. When we do have sex he’s very erect. No issues there, normally. He also finished very quickly which hasn’t happened when we’ve been intimate with 2 days. SOMETIMES I get lucky and there’s less of a gap between intimacy. Would this be possible if he was masturbating between sex? Men you tell me. I’ve done the lingerie, toys etc. But recently he’s told me when I asked if he even likes sex that “it’s fine”. I pressed for more information and he said sex is ok in general. So now I’m wondering if he’s a porn addict. I don’t understand not enjoying sex and saying it’s just ok in general. Not just with me. Everyone. He made a comment that no matter how hot a woman is a man somewhere is bored of sleeping with her because that’s normal to just get bored of sleeping with someone. I asked if that was the case with me and he said no which I’m sure was a lie. He’s finally said he’s bored of our sex life when I pressed him for over 2 years to tell me what the hell is going on. I’ve been trying to spice things up before he said this and he was unreceptive. I always asked what more we could do before he told me this and made offers and he never was interested in anything to spice things up. NOW he finally tells me and tells me he watches porn bc he’s bored of our sex life. I bought toys lingerie and we tried all these new things. I’m wondering if he’s messed his brain up where he just prefers porn and now sex in general is now boring. I don’t understand how you can get bored of a receptive partner who you love and is excited and wants to try new things otherwise. Is it possible it’s a porn addiction if he’s finishing quickly when we go long stretches? Wouldn’t masturbation make you take longer? Please help!