I (60f) and my partner (64m) have been in a relationship for 9 years and in a DB for nearly two. I am LL and he is HL. I used to be HL but his meanest and grumpiness have just got worse as the years go on. He seems irritated with me all day but then gets into bed rolls over to me with “ohh baby”. Initially I would go along with it but eventually having sex with someone who seems to dislike me made me feel lower than a prostitute…at least they get something out of it. I earn a lot more money than him and have more assets and we have a prenup and I think a lot of his anger stems from that. I have repeatedly told him that for a woman to want sex she wants to feel loved and that can be through small actions throughout the day like asking if you want a coffee when they are making themselves one through to kissing hello/ goodbye and asking how your day went. In November he was nice to me for two whole days and my world felt transformed. But he couldn’t stick with it and now I have told him I want to separate.