So it all started Long ago (10 years ago) when i was a stupid jerk and wasnt even sure we were going to be married or to be more than friends, i made the mistake of cheating on her with my ex (i used to live with her for more than a year but we broke up), my now wife and I had been in a relation for about a month or so at that time and she found out about my affair, we talked about that and I gave her a choice to end our relationship or stay and try to fix it, she decides to stay wich i respected and honored by not doing anything like that again.

Shortly after that she started to deny any sexual interaction, we used to have sex 3,4 and sometimes 5 times a week, then we started to have less sex, so after 10 years of relationship in which im still faithful to her and not done anything else she is still having problems but now we barely have sex one time a week and sometimes once every 2 weeks and im starting it every single time, she doesnt do anything if i dont ask her, im not the kind of guy that leaves all the work to the girl, mainly because i want her to enjoy it as much as possible.

I've tried to talk to her a lot of times trying to get some answers from her but she is still stuck, i do know it was my fault for being an unfaithful jerk but after that i changed my life completely because i realized i wanted to be with her, i've tried lots of things with her, buy her sexy clothes, take her on trips, buying toys, put some porn, having romantic dinners, buy her presents to see if that would get her to act by herself but nothing works.

I have given her the choice again of ending our relationship i think 2 or 3 times more and she still said no, i proposed an open marriage if she didnt want to have sex with me and also for me to have another girl Just to avoid leaving my needs of sexual and human contact to her but she says we Will divorce if that happens (now we have 2 kids) which obviously i dont want that to happen i do love her and my kids but i have needs and she just doesnt care, again i know i fucked up really bad but i gave her the choice not one but several times

She doesnt have a password on her cellphone so i can check whenever i want and i've never found anything so i think she is not cheating, she stays at home with the kids or we go out together, im starting to think my only options are divorce or just have a side chick to stop putting that frustration into her, I dont really like the idea of having a side chick because i love my wife and i want to be with her but im just lost and horny

It frustrates me event more because i've had quite a few Girls at work or at parties trying to get me into their beds but i just keep rejecting them wich makes me feel stupid and even more frustrated.