Just got through the ordeal of having sex with someone I love with zero passion for the 3rd year in a row.

It's extra depressing that it's a new year and still nothing has changed. Would it kill him to at least pretend he cares about my desires too? The only type of action I get these days: Zero foreplay, asks me to keep my top on, proceeds to dry thrust in me for 10 mins and goes to wash up after he cuts. And he still has the audacity to get offended when I'm sulking about not being taken care of.

Porn is the only thing that's keeping me going at this point but it's an unfortunate cycle because it makes me extra horny all the time and the kinks keep getting more and more depraved with no outlet.

Is having sex once a week considered a dead bedroom too if the sex is not what you desire and you have communicated it clearly multiple times only to no avail?

Disclaimer: I'm staying bc we're married with a kid and I don't want to break up our family over sex...plus it's not like we're totally incompatible and I doubt I'll find someone like him in this lifetime